Top 10: All around Pet Peeves (2014)

My top Pet Peeves! It was one late night, basically early morning about two weeks ago I think when I was drafting some 'Top 10 Beauty Pet Peeves' for a blog post but I just couldn't stop thinking about just things that seriously bother me that aren't beauty related. Like anyone I have plenty of pet peeves or things just bother me about the world and other people but here are 10 that I think are quite significant in my life at the moment.

Caution before hand. This blog post is long, lots of text and are all my honest opinion. If you disagree or feel differently it's none of your business to tell me that I'm wrong or that I'm a bad person. We all have different opinions for different reasons. That's life. Go ahead and share how you feel but don't expect me to agree with you or be convinced otherwise. I don't go out of my way to offend people or to disturb their lives so I expect the same unless you're ready for a debate.

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This is Ocha, the pet cat of a friend of mine! This is the kind of face I have when thinking of the pet peeves I've listed below. Hehehe..'pet'....no pun intended. Check out Ocha's (Facebook page here!)

1. People who have never been fat or even overweight trying to advice to those who have always been fat.

If you have never been overweight or had to suffer the discrimination or stresses don't comment, don't think you're qualified to give advice simply because you're 'in shape' and 'fit' and look 'healthy'. Seriously, don't do it. It isn't helpful not just because what you do won't work for me but because you can't emphathize with me so drop it.

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2. Ladies who don't wear/use make up using the topics of cosmetics being bad for the skin/ make up= low confidence as reasons of why they don't use.

Really? This argument, again? I can't stand people who think they are just that bit 'better' because they 'don't do' what 'we do'. Apparently make up causes acne and skin problems and most of all means that those who wear any or more have very low self confidence…PLEASE BITCH.

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3. Being told, "You're pretty so you'd never understand/ You have no reason to have low self-confidence."

Well fuck you! And not in a really bad way! This is the problem in general. We all assume people look the way we see them as what they've always and maybe will always look like. I looked very different 5 years ago, 2 years ago, even 1 year ago. And maybe will you so you have no right to make such an assumption unless you're okay with me bashing you with my enlightening back story or just leaving the conversation.

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4. People who are against abortion to the degree of rather having the pregnant women die along with the baby than to have an abortion so her life isn't in danger.

Firstly, I'm a pro-choice lady. I don't care how she got pregnant, it's a woman body, she a living breathing existing person and the baby will effect her far more than it is effect a fetus with no conscious, no feelings and no existence. (of this is can vary depending on the development) I would never call an abortion a 'killing' or 'murder' that's just retarded. When a living person is in danger, it's their life that should be priority, without them the baby wouldn't be possible in the first place.

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5. People thinking that 9-5 is a 'normal' time for jobs and others aren't.

HELLO. what about the bus driver? The cashier at the supermarket? The hotel staff? The social workers? Events manager? Actors? Writers? Models? Plumer? Millitary? Medical staff? Those are the majority and they aren't on office hour shifts. Non-office hours is the MAJORITY of job hours in real life people.

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6. People in a restaurant talking to the person who sent the food to their table as if they are the same person who took the order, same person in charge of the section, same person as the manager and god.

I think this is where the general public just need education. The person that sends your food to you in most establishments (at least in asia) usually is not the person who is in charge of the area you are seated in, not the person who took your order and definitely isn't the person who cooked your meal. So it is just unfair to handle them as if they were suppose to know that your friend's side of gratin wasn't suppose to come until after the mains and that you ordered a martini that hasn't arrived!

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7. Having people ask, "But how do you deal with the cultural differences?" When finding out my boyfriend is a different nationality.

I grew up in south east asia, across 4 different countries, 3 different schools and had classrooms with 30 classmates from 10 or more nationalities, many who were mixed…and this runs the same through most of the school. Kids are kids, when we grow up together and if our families don't restrict who we interact with it's just person meet person. Maybe it's just us third culture kids, we don't really have an actual home but where our friends are. So to answer the question, I don't 'deal' with the difference because they are never a 'problem' to begin with. As long as our core values and beliefs are the same everything else for a partnership.

My class in Phnom Penh International school from grade 6-10 when I studied there. Some nationalities in my class were Japanese-American, Korean, Filipino, Indian, Cambodia-Australian, German-Philipino, Kiwi, Mauritius, Thai-British, Dutch-African, Thai-australian, Malaysian, Indian-Canadian, Cambodian, Swedish, Filipino-American and myself Singaporean! This is the only type of classmates I've had throughout my whole life.

8. People who are dead against scientific/technologic advancements (ie stem cell research, GMO, artificial life) but have no problems taking doctor prescribed drugs and paying for their mother to have cancer treatment.


EXCUSE ME YOU DUMBSHIT. If you are using an Iphone 5, paying for your mother's cancer treatment, taking your daily dose of aspirin, paying for vaccinations…these are all things that would have not been possible if those few geniuses amongst us didn't fumble around in a lab killing/experimenting/testing things. If you take things humans have created to extend life so you don't die at 35 like we used to, stop complaining about those of us who are actually going to make a different to mankind.

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9. Youth who flat-out refuse to take the advice of someone of the same or similar age because how can you know better/more than me?

Just because we are the same age or have a sun's rotation or two or three between us doesn't make the younger of use too much less wise nor does it make the older one any more. I've had instances where someone just a year or two younger snobbishly and angrily didn't want to hear my opinion because mine doesn't count because they obviously are going to have a completely different experience because I can't know much better to give legitimate advice right??? Because magically how old you are correlates to how much life experience YOU DEFINITELY HAVE.

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10. My stretch marks.

I have them behind my knees, down the back of my calves, on my stomachs, hips, sides of my breast, back of my arms, in my crotch, all along my inner thighs. Yes, I know, you might not believe it looking at me now but I suffered the very common issue of stretch marks while growing up and major weight gain in my teenage years. They have all faded now but the texture and scarring remains forever. I'm finally at peace with them, well…. almost.

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I know I probably will have offended some people's sensibilities or values through this post but it's my blog and I put up whatever I want. My mother is one of those people who rather not speak her mind out loud in public in case she offends somebody. 

However I always remind her, "So what? You offend someone's idea of something...what happens? Someone dies? Gets hurt? No, nothing actually happens in real life, it just makes people reconsider their position and their reasoning and that's a good thing.

Just to lighten the mood, here's a heart melting photo of my friend's two beautiful cats!

Thank you to everyone who took the time to read this post! It was long, detailed and honest. I really couldn't care less if I loss a bunch of followers because of this, because we all knows everyone else does things we don't all approve of. It's just a matter of whether or not you're aware of their actions/thoughts/feelings. 

Feel free to comment! 

Thank you!